In our relationships, we must often walk in a vast gray area of unknowability. Even within ourselves, there are many times when we cannot discern intuition from fear. Sometimes we simply must embrace uncertainty…
Tag: relationships
“Oops! That’s actually mine.” Being a therapist presents a unique opportunity to continuously see myself within my clients’ stories and take my own medicine. It’s not about perfection – for any of…
Clear intentions manifest into better outcomes, so why would we neglect to author ground rules in our most important relationships? Whether you’re entering a new relationship, or renewing a long-tested one to…
The Undoing I find myself alone. Again. I am exhausted from the weight of life. I cannot go on like this. What if I must go on like this? I am doing…
Belonging encompasses two critical components of our resilience. Neglected, and we are likely to crumble in the next inevitable crisis. Our first line of defense in the midst of crisis is our…
Question: Do you have any advice that may help me create a greater awareness in my friendships? I’m curious about your concept of stress-testing relationships. I often feel my friendships are not…
Question: I feel anxious during conflict in relationships and pursue resolution like a dog with a bone. Is this an ADHD thing? Are there healthy ways to cope when space is needed?…
Do you know and understand your attachment style? What about your (current or ideal future) partner’s? Attachment is a focus in so much of my work, regardless of whether the presenting issue…
I can totally manage a focused crisis. Brief calamity is my specialty. Living in a chronic state of pain and anxiety is a different beast. I started my ‘Rockstar Comeback’ experiment as…
What if you were asked to participate in a study and when asked a question with an obvious correct answer, the first seven participants all gave the wrong response? We’ve known definitively…